Tuesday, July 10, 2012

Tips on how to Parent with your child in Mind

I have learnt so much in my training, and feel I need to educate parents and parents to be on how we can all do a better job on raising the future generation. Did you know from the age of birth to seven years a child's subconscious is wide open ? this means everything they see, hear, feel and experience will go in to their programming, and remain there. By the age of around 15 years,the sub conscious is finished growing and begins to solidify. this is typically why teenagers are troublesome, it is because they are realizing hey what a minute? What happened to me was NOT ok or they suddenly have emotions coming up and do not know where they come from. 
We all know that sadly some households are less than desirable and the effect this has on children, but did you know we may have had a very happy childhood and still have issues because of the incorrect belief system we formed at a younger age? For example a client came to see me, he had issues with the women in his life and has begun to act violently towards them, this was getting worse.
Things were so bad that his latest relationship ended because he had controlled her so much, beat her and locked her in a closet, his temper was getting worse and apart from the fact he felt terrible for behaving in such a way but confused because he just couldn't work out where it was coming from.
He was suffering from a belief system of unlovable, he felt abandoned. We did a regression back to the time which caused him to feel these negative feelings, we went back to when he was two, he was out in the yard playing on his bike when he fell off and the bike landed on top of him, he was trapped and hurt.
He called out to his mommy who did not arrive until some ten minutes had passed, during that time he concluded, I'm unworthy, unlovable, bad and abandoned also that he could no longer trust women. At that time he was unable to understand that his mom was in fact getting the shopping from the car and did not hear his calls for help.
However the damage was already done, when she realized what had happened she took him inside and reassured him and dressed his wounds and thought he would be ok. 
He began to have issues at school, especially female teachers, he started to be rude and disrespectful towards them and in turn his mother. He became a bully at school and started to pick on girls, as he got older, this started to get worse.


When he was a teenager he began dating but found himself needing to control the relationship, the first real relationship he had, his girlfriend cheated on him, it was then things took a dramatic turn. 


He began to be even more controlling and then the physical abuse began, after a few failed relationships he sought help. Because of this one innocent event it caused him to have the incorrect belief system, which in tun turned him into a controlling abuser, after the regression he was all healed and the relationship with his mom was finally made better.
So you can see from the above example that something "silly" can actually lead to something significant. When we are parenting we would be better coming from a place of love and nurturing, yes of course we love our children but if we can understand how much our actions and words can affect a child forever we may decide to change the way we do things.
How many times have we seen a child picking it's nose? The mother typically when realizes whats happening says "oh my god that's dirty do not do that it's bad"! When maybe if we said "honey if your nose needs cleaning let mommy know and I can get you a tissue, here let's go and get one", we may get a better result in the long term. True we don't always have time to think about what we say but think about the alternative, what message are you sending out and what effect could this have on the future generation?

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